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Post by Ginger » 10 Aug 2007, 17:40

What do people think of Honey Traps?

For those who don't know its when women hire other women through private detectives to try and see if their husbands would cheat on them. There has been a lot of negative press about it lately saying that the honey trappers are as bad as the men who cheat, what do you reckon?
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Post by chippy » 10 Aug 2007, 17:51

i reckon if you distrust your partner that much you shouldn't be married in the first place. obvious really.
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Post by Lord_Blacknose » 10 Aug 2007, 17:53

chippy wrote:i reckon if you distrust your partner that much you shouldn't be married in the first place. obvious really.


This. By going behind someone's back like that you are also being a deceitful wanker. 0/10 all round.
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Post by Krusty » 10 Aug 2007, 19:11

i read an article about a guy one. i guess if you thought your partner was doing the dirty on you, you might hire one. but what if the man doesn't fancy the woman, he won't pull her but you'll never know if he's cheating. ooh.

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Post by Ginger » 10 Aug 2007, 20:16

Yeah it's a tricky one. Its a shame that there is cause for them, but then if i was being cheated on i'd want to know
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Post by Krusty » 10 Aug 2007, 20:59

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Post by >RacheL< » 10 Aug 2007, 23:36

I don't know really..sometimes you have NO IDEA that they're cheating on you other than their reputation..I don't know whether i'd go as far as hiring someone to find out..I don't think i would, but I remember in my last relationship when things started to go bad he had plenty of chances to be truthful and he never was. So maybe if you can't trust them completely break away from that person completely but if its a case of marriage/children in the middle a honey trap wouldn't be SUCH a bad idea.

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Post by LittleTill » 11 Aug 2007, 10:25

so what you ladies are saying is: that it is acceptable in a relationship (which in marriage should be based on a mutual trust for one another) to hire someone to test your man's integrity - my god what FUCKING RETARDED LOGIC is that.
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Post by Ginger » 11 Aug 2007, 12:58

If you suspect something is going on yes, if he wants to risk things by having an affair then why not!
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Post by SquidgyB » 11 Aug 2007, 14:07

it does show an amazing level of distrust if you're willing to pay someone to try and hoodwink your partner (I nearly said loved on there, but I think this is the point) into doing something dodgy.

speaking as someone who couldn't cheat, let alone think of it, it just shows how badly releationships can break down and how some people will go out with/marry complete dicks. I've never understood that.

but hey, I'm a nice guy, I just can't fathom what goes on in the minds of people like that. just like the minds of chavs. never could figure it out.

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Post by >RacheL< » 11 Aug 2007, 18:25

SquidgyB wrote:but hey, I'm a nice guy, I just can't fathom what goes on in the minds of people like that. just like the minds of chavs. never could figure it out.


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Post by metal_dave » 11 Aug 2007, 18:33

if you can't stay faithful there's something wrong with you, imoooo. keeping your pants on for ten minutes aint that difficult.
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Post by Ginger » 11 Aug 2007, 19:24

But it's not always that simple, if only it was. I think do what you want, i don't think i'd ever use them though. I might become one for the cash..
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Post by metal_dave » 11 Aug 2007, 19:37

i guess it's more difficult if you're stuck in a marriage with kids or whatever. my comment was more aimed at the dumbass teenagers who can't help slagging about. if you're not happy with someone, do the decent thing and break up with them before you go jump on someone else.
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Post by Ginger » 11 Aug 2007, 20:23

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Post by Krusty » 11 Aug 2007, 21:16

there's NEVER an excuse for cheating. unless you literally black out and have sex with someone - but i guess that's pretty much rape.

if you're drunk you still know what you're doing, and you know it's wrong. you just don't care as much i guess.

if someone cheated on me i'd be FUCKING gutted.

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Post by Ginger » 11 Aug 2007, 21:49

People make mistakes though, yeah its a shit thing to happen to anyone but i think you can get past it. I am not under any circumstances trying to suggest it is ok to cheat, i just think people make mistakes and you can't know how to react or how you're gonna react until in that situation, may you be the cheater or the cheatee.
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Post by Chris » 11 Aug 2007, 21:58

I think if it gets to the point where you have to do that, then the marriage is over whether he's cheated/willing to cheat or not.
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Post by Krusty » 11 Aug 2007, 22:27

Ginger wrote:People make mistakes though, yeah its a shit thing to happen to anyone but i think you can get past it. I am not under any circumstances trying to suggest it is ok to cheat, i just think people make mistakes and you can't know how to react or how you're gonna react until in that situation, may you be the cheater or the cheatee.


yeah yeah yeah i know it happens, and it's fucking easy to happen, and i'm sure most people have cheated once in their lives. i just mean there (in my opinion) isn't ever an excuse.

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Post by SquidgyB » 12 Aug 2007, 03:02

Krusty wrote:and i'm sure most people have cheated once in their lives.


dunno if you're going on a 49% vs 51% thing here, but I'm sure it's not that clear cut. I know I can say safely I have never cheated

edit: that said I have been cheated on, not pleasant, but I wouldn't hire someone to find out if it's likely or anything

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Post by jo_rhymes » 12 Aug 2007, 09:51

Honey Traps are disgusting.

If you don't trust your partner then leave.

A relationship without trust is not a relationship.

To set up a trap to see if someone would cheat on you is seriously fucked up. If you even consider that your partner would cheat on you, you're either paranoid, or you're with a wanker. Either way, get out the relationship.
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Post by knobsack » 12 Aug 2007, 11:02

I'm very much in the fucked up camp on this one
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Post by LittleTill » 12 Aug 2007, 18:45

well said jo. some people just feel they have to take control of a situation I guess - by any means necessary, reminds me a bit of the mindset i imagine would lead to someone murdering a loved one.
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Post by chippy » 13 Aug 2007, 11:39

Ginger wrote:If you suspect something is going on yes, if he wants to risk things by having an affair then why not!


And even if it turns out that your man ISN'T cheating on you, you might as well terminate the relationship anyway, since you have just demonstrated a fundemental lack of trust. Ergo don't bother with the honey trap and just end it anyway.
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Post by SquidgyB » 13 Aug 2007, 12:08

the idea smacks of one-upmanship and somehow wanting to catch someone 'at it'. the best idea really is to end it there and then, save yourself a lot of money and grief.

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Post by chippy » 13 Aug 2007, 12:12

this sounds like the sort of stupid idea you would get off sex and the city or desperate houswives or some shit.
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Post by Jess » 13 Aug 2007, 14:36

Fucking stupid idea. If you think he's cheating then confront him about it, I suspect he'd lie about it if he was but you might as well ask him first, give the bloke a chance and all that.
Stupid waste of time and money.

Edit: Go spy on him yourself if you're so worked up about it, rather then spending lots of moneys. Also, if you can't trust each other you're a bit buggered.

(The use of 'you' is not aimed at anyone by the way.)
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Post by jo_rhymes » 13 Aug 2007, 14:38

it's on par with reading someone's diary. It's betrayal.
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Post by Ginger » 13 Aug 2007, 14:50

So is cheating on someone.

I would've thought that the people that do this would have already asked the guy. Just because they are asked something doesn't mean they'll tell the truth and if you're so convinced he's cheating you might just want to know rather than never know and have thrown your marriage away for nothing.
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